The Mauses practice male chastity as part of our relationship. We are not married and don't live together, and due to our busy schedules with work and school we tend to see each other for less than 24 hours once a week if that; typically Saturday night through Sunday afternoon. During the week we communicate via chats, sharing images and stories with each other. Mr. E. Maus has been interested in and practicing chastity as an aspect of play long before I came into the picture.
We've known each other for almost eight months (as of this writing) and renegotiated the terms of our relationship only a three months ago when I asked him to decide whether he wanted a relationship with me or not. I stated that he was fucking with my emotions stringing me along and asked that we talk about his red flags. At that time he said had been holding off concerned that I wasn't kinky enough. I corrected him by stating that he'd never asked, my kinks aren't something I wear on my sleeve like most of the people in our community and that I don't really think of my kinks as "kinky" per se, but proclivities.
Mr. E. Maus came to the table asserting chastity as something fun to do along with objectification, forced feminization, mummification and a few other things, some much more extreme than others. When he gave me the keys to his cage I was a little shocked but understood the implication of the offering to a limited extent. Being unfamiliar with many of his kinks, I have spent a couple of months pulling at threads trying to wrap my head around how to best work with his desires to both of our satisfaction. It's been a fun and interesting challenge. Last week he sent me a couple of articles that highlighted aspects of forced feminization, relinquishing control and obedience. We had some brief chat back and forth about what all that that would look like to him - he repeated things he had previously said about liking the idea of having little to no control, not having to think about succeeding, especially failing and being fully in a bodily experience rather than a mental one. As we were swapping articles he pointed out the Kept For Her lock up dice game calculator, I asked if this is something he'd like to try (yes), I told him I would draft up the rules and we would begin this weekend.
The dice roll system will determine how long Mr. Maus would be locked in chastity (he has a CB2K). Our rules are very simple.
- We use 6 side dice.
- We roll one die to determine the number of dice to roll.
- We roll one die again to determine the number of rolls.
- A coin toss to determine if we use an average of the rolls or high roll.
All of this will determine the number of days he will be locked without orgasm.
- I put this date on our shared google calendar with set reminders.
- I will take him out
to teasewhen we see each other (as per our once a week schedule) but will lock him back up without orgasm.
- If we have opportunities to see each other more often, I may decide to tease him at those times.
- On tease days he must give me an orgasm before I will tease him.
- Punishment for not giving me an orgasm is that I will not tease him on designated tease days.
- If he has an accidental emission during teasing he will begin the previously determined locked period (by the last dice roll) again, thereby extending his release date.
- On designated day of orgasmic release I will allow him an orgasm only after he has given me at least one BIG orgasm.
- If he does not give me an orgasm, he will be locked without release/orgasm. A new dice roll will determine his new release date.
- Before we part, he will be re-locked thus beginning his locked period as determined by the dice roll.
- If he has an accidental emission independently he must report to me and his release date will be extended by the previously determined locked period (by the last dice roll).
- No masturbation of any kind is allowable.
This weekend Mr. Maus rolled an eight. He's getting off easy!
When I asked him about promoting the dice game to me, he said he liked the randomness and unpredictability of it. The longest he'd been locked is eight days and during that time he managed to masturbate (he just told me this). As a result of learning this information I wrote in some consequences. Using six sided dice the highest possible number of days locked is 36, which to me sounds like nothing considering there is weekly teasing in the program, but it makes him shudder with concern, which just makes me laugh. I'm not a cruel person I swear, but I reserve the right to add in eight or ten sided die - and will likely do so as a consequence of failure to comply with one of the rules.
I'm still learning about tease and denial, milking, ruined orgasms and that kind of play, as I am more familiar with pain, bondage and forced orgasm kind of play. Mr. Maus drives me cra-cra I can't keep my hands off of him and I'm hornier for him than I've ever been in my life, teasing him will be a delight.
Learning how to cooperate on this has been a fun mental challenge for me. Although he has been topping from the bottom pretty effectively, I think I finally have a handle on this and will put a stop to that nonsense ;-) For the most part this is starting to look a little like a Female Led (sexual) Relationship, which I'm mostly okay with. I say mostly because we don't live together and I don't have the the opportunity to run a tight ship. This blog is intended to share my thoughts on learning to engage with male chastity. To be perfectly honest I'm glad we have begun our relationship on these terms. It seems to convey a level of trust an honor that I thoroughly appreciate.